It’s that time of year again – the sun’s out, the streets are bustling with evening drinks and people are just generally in a better mood. What’s more, summer is also a fantastic time for those who are single; for some reason, all rules go out of the window and having fun holiday romances and passionate, short lived flings take over.
However, there are some people who are intrigued by this notion of a summer fling but are not sure how to go about it – where do I meet them, are there any ‘dating rules’, what if I start to develop long lasting feelings for them? To break it down for you a little, we’ve covered the top steps and tips to remember when embarking on a summer romance.
How to meet someone?
The easy answer? By getting out there. Summer is the time for riverside eats and overflowing pubs and festival parties. It’s probably the busiest time of the year for activities and events as people want to get out there and be sociable.
Whatever your social scene is, try and go to new places you haven’t yet been to so you can meet new people – bars, rooftop openings, parks, festivals, pubs etc are all good places to start.
Also read: Beginners Guide to Online Dating
Who do I choose?
Of course, a lot of the time it isn’t going to be your ‘here’s a group of people and you can choose whoever you want’ scenario. What is most likely going to happen is that you will go out to different places and it’ll happen naturally and easily – you just have to make sure you are open.
Definitely try and choose someone who don’t know – so beyond your social group – and someone who is confident and energetic is a good idea. Holidaying is a great way to meet a summer fling because you will definitely not have any connections to them and you have an easy exit strategy.
You know what you’re getting into and what you’re after with a summer fling but make sure they’re on the same page too. If you don’t want anything too serious but just want to enjoy getting to know someone and not adding any commitment to the situation, make that clear from the beginning. There’s nothing worse than leading someone on without realising and having to deal with a messy situation.
What do we do?
The best part about a summer fling is that it’s probably going to be one of the most outgoing and exciting ‘relationships’ you’ll be involved in. It’s all about trying new things and spontaneity and letting go so don’t go down the boring route of constant dinners and cinema trips. Instead, make use of the weather and have some fun…here are some ides to get you started:
- Picnic in the park
- Bike ride
- Rooftop Bars
- Open Air Theatres (The Globe, Regent’s Park)
- Comedy Clubs
- Gigs and Festivals
- Renting out boats or pedalos
- Explore walks and trails
- Beach trips
Also read: How to Start Dating After a Break Up
What about friends/family introductions?
Just because you don’t feel this is going to be overly serious and long lasting doesn’t mean you can’t take them to group events to meet people. It can be great fun if your friend is hosting a BBQ to bring your new fling and see how they integrate with the group – especially if you’re considering making this a long-term thing!
This will still be tough despite you both knowing that it was always going to happen. Regardless of the situation or the time length, it’s important to allow yourself to be sad but to mainly remember all the amazing times you had together. If it’s easier, you don’t have to keep their contact details or maybe you’ve realised you’ve found someone special and you don’t want to let go. Either way, there’s no right or wrong way and some of the best and longest lasting relationships have manifested out of summer flings. Whatever happens, make the date you decide to call it day (if that’s what you feel is right) a special occasion where you do one last enjoyable thing together.
Ultimately, a summer fling can really make your summer that much more exciting and enjoyable. It’s the kind of relationship that opens you up and taps into your spontaneous side – something that’s great for those who find it difficult to loosen up all the time. If you’re single this summer, this might be something worth considering.